Lately I have been reflecting quite a bit on the different
ways that people talk about and respond to chronic disease, and in particular in
my experiences with IBD and IBS. In my experience, I have found that there is a
relatively low level of understanding and awareness about these diseases among
the general public. For example, many people confuse my fructose malabsorption
with an allergy. (This quiz is
a good way to clarify the differences if you are unsure yourself, or just to
test your own knowledge).
Additionally, because IBD and IBS often involve “toilet
issues,” which are generally seen as things you don’t discuss in public, I have
found that there is often a mixture of embarrassment, disgust, shock and pity
when I talk to others about what I am going through.
This week, I thought I would therefore write about the range
of experiences I have had with this, and share a bit more about my individual symptoms.
MY SYMPTOMS
As discussed in previous posts (like this one,
or this
one), my symptoms often seem to be due to a combination of my IBD and IBS.
This can sometimes mean that within a few hours, I can have several different
things happening in my belly. Here is a quick summary of my main symptoms:
Bloating – This often
happens when I have eaten foods with high fructans content, such as bread.
Flatulence – This happens regularly most days, and is worst after eating foods high in fructose or too much dairy. It is also quite common for me to have a lot of gas in the mornings, which I believe are due to a combination of my FM and UC.
Flatulence – This happens regularly most days, and is worst after eating foods high in fructose or too much dairy. It is also quite common for me to have a lot of gas in the mornings, which I believe are due to a combination of my FM and UC.
Stomach pain – This
also mainly after eating foods with high fructans content, and can also sometimes
happen when I am hungry, which I believe is due to my UC.
Abdominal cramps –
This seems to be more of a symptom of my UC, and often occurs with constipation.
Acid reflux – This
usually occurs after eating foods with high fructose content, such as apple and
onion.
Alternating
constipation and diarrhoea (IBS-A)
– This seems to depend on what I have eaten during the day, as well as my
stress levels and hormonal changes (such as during my period).
Difficulty with
sleeping – This is usually worse after eating too many problem foods during
the day.
SUFFERING IN SILENCE
In my opinion, one of the biggest barriers for understanding
IBS and IBD is the negative stigma around them. I have experienced having
people tell me that it is “too much information” when I talk about my symptoms,
or that I am “causing too much trouble” and just “making excuses” when I
mention my dietary requirements. Up until recently, I was often embarrassed
about my symptoms, and did everything I could to hide them because of these
kinds of attitudes. I wouldn’t speak up when I was in pain, even when I could
hardly stand, would never break wind in front of my boyfriend, even in private,
and was hesitant to tell people about my dietary requirements when going out to
eat, even if they asked.
It seems to me that this is a common way for most sufferers of IBS and IBD to
deal with their illness, and I think this is why many people have been shocked
when I have told them about my illnesses for the first time. Because of this,
I can relate to articles such as this one,
which highlights things people say that can be hurtful when they don’t
understand what you are going through, such as “You don’t look sick.” In a lot
of ways, because most people don’t understand them, it seems that diseases like
IBD and IBS are taken for granted, and aren’t seen as being “that serious.”
EMBRACING MY ILLNESS
To help change my own perception of my illnesses, I have
recently joined some support groups via social media, and I have been pleasantly
surprised by the support and positivity in these groups. I has been heartening
to find that there are thousands of people out there with similar symptoms and
experiences to my own, and who are looking for answers to similar questions.
Through these groups, I have finally felt a sense of solidarity, and of
community.
Through these groups, I have also heard about people like Bethany
Townsend, followed by Daniel
Searle, and others,
who are defying social stigma and no longer hiding their colostomy bags –
showing they are not ashamed of their condition. Although I am fortunate to not
need a colostomy bag at the moment, I have still been able to relate to these
people, and they have inspired me to be more accepting of my own conditions. This
is also a great article, as it talks about embracing your illness as part of you.
I would like to be able to reach this point with my conditions as well.
Have you had similar
experiences when talking about your illness, or do you have inspirational
stories to share? Please comment below.
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